Confident moms don’t just do and think certain things. They also avoid thinking and doing certain things.
If you want to be a more confident mom, consider avoiding these things, too.
It’s easier to climb a mountain without carrying a rock. Drop the habits and other behaviors that burden your ability to feel confident.
Without these obstacles getting in your way, you’ll create a new ceiling for your confidence.
Wanna know how to be a more confident mom? Avoid these confidence-destroying traps.
How to be a more confident mom but avoiding these 10 things
Negative self-talk
You can’t feel confident and say negative things to yourself. Plus, it’s just not nice.
If you want to feel positive about yourself, it helps to have a positive outlook.
Negative thoughts drain away positive emotions, including the positive feeling of confidence.
Instead of looking in the mirror thinking how fat your arms are in the dress, tell yourself you’re looking stunning.
Self-criticism
Remind yourself of your successes and keep self-criticism at bay. If you wouldn’t talk to your best friend that way, don’t do it to yourself.
Be your own best friend and supporter.
In episode 43 of the Real Happy Mom Podcast, Kimberly shares how to do a reverse bucket list.
Instead of writing down all of the things that you how to accomplish, make a list of all of the thing you have already accomplished.
Celebrate and see the progress you’ve made.
People that sabotage them
Most of the people in your life don’t want to see your success rise too far above their own.
If you want to maximize your self-confidence, it’s best to avoid these people as much as possible.
This may require that you make some new mom friends.
Whatever you do, don’t let other people sabotage you.
Complaining
Complaining is insidious.
It suggests that you can’t fix the challenges in your life. This isn’t true.
Instead of complaining, work on a solution. This may entail making new goals, seek out help or eliminating task.
Know in your heart that you can handle any challenge in your life.
Complaining also rewires your brain to be negative.
Even though complaining may feel good at the moment, when you continuously complain, complaining becomes a habit.
This eventually takes a toll on how others view you and how you view yourself.
Don’t be tempted. Don’t complain.
Seeking attention
Confident moms don’t need a lot of attention from others.
If you’re confident in yourself, you’ll be too busy taking care of business to worry if others are paying attention.
Only those lacking in confidence need attention and approval. Although attention-seeking is common in kids, it’s not a good habit to have as an adult.
Some examples of seeking attention include:
- Exaggerating a story or situation to get sympathy from someone
- Provoking someone to get a reaction from them
- Pretend like you can’t do something to get the attention of someone
You are a confident mom, so you don’t need to do these things to get attention.
Worrying about what others are doing
Be confident that you have a good plan and are capable of executing it.
Let everyone wonder what you’re doing instead of worrying about what they’re doing.
Worrying about what others are doing on robs you of time that you can use to better yourself.
Allowing a lack of information or certainty to stop them
Moms that lack confidence need 100% certainty.
Those that are confident can take action with far less than complete information.
70% is usually enough to get started. Be confident and get busy.
Avoiding making decisions
Rash decisions usually turn out poorly but taking too long to make a decision is ineffective, too.
Confident moms make decisions more quickly and easily than those that are lacking in confidence.
Indecisiveness is just a form of procrastination. So let’s get to it.
Relying on luck
Luck is for those without the confidence to take responsibility.
Wish, hope, or pray all you like, but keep moving your feet.
Confident moms will take luck when they get it, but they don’t rely on it. They know they will succeed without it.
Making excuses
Excuses are a way for those without confidence to justify quitting.
If you’re confident, you don’t look for excuses. You look for solutions and then implement them.
If you catch yourself making excuses, ask yourself why you’re doing it.
How confident are you? What would happen if you could become the most confident mom you know? The difference in your life would be staggering.
Confident moms avoid certain things. If you want to be confident, it makes sense to avoid those same things. How confident do you want to be?
