There are so many distractions and so many things that can have your mind going in a million different places.
You try to have fun with the kids, but you feel disconnected because you are thinking about work or how you need to pick up at the grocery store for dinner.
You may have already heard about the many benefits of present moment thinking. When you live in the present, the many stressors of the mind do not bother you.
However, if you’ve ever tried to stay in the present for a long period of time, you’ll notice that your brain automatically travels to your past and future.
This is to be expected as you transition to focusing on the present moment.
Let me share with you some ways to be the mom that is present in the moment.
It Takes Practice!
Even some of the most skilled present moms encounter times when they have difficulty concentrating.
With practice, it becomes easier. But there will always be times here and there when you get distracted.
So don’t be so hard on yourself and know that it will get better with time.
When you first begin to think in the present moment, you may be tempted to feel impatient and frustrated.
Frustration will only make things worse and is the opposite of what you’ve set out to accomplish.
Instead, look at it as a good thing. If you’re frustrated, then you’re noticing when your mind starts to wander and you can return it back to the present.
Starting With Meditation
Meditation is based on the notion of being in the present moment.
Therefore, it’s an excellent practice to pick up in your life.
Mediation is so easy, but so hard to do. Because mediation requires you to calm your mind, you may find it challenging at first.
Try to make time to do it every day. Try to meditate around the same time each day, too, for the best results.
You can look up traditional methods of meditation, or you can simply discover your own practice.
I personally have been using guided meditation or I focus on repeating affirmations for the day.
It’s best to get yourself into a comfortable seated position and then begin following your breath.
Take slow, deep breaths, one at a time, because you’re in no rush.
Meditating allows you to practice staying in the present moment during a time that you’re alone and avoiding distractions.
You’ll be able to notice the times when your mind is really active versus the times when you’re calmer.
Once you’ve mastered this awareness, you can begin to apply your skills to other portions of your day to expand the amount of time that you spend in the present moment.
Making Time for Self-Care
It sounds simple, right?
But one of the most difficult obstacles to present moment thinking seems to be just making time for self-care.
You might tell yourself that it’s time to meditate, but your mind nags you to accomplish one more chore before bedtime.
Before you know it, you feel as if you don’t have any additional time for yourself.
This is when you need to put your foot down and make it a priority.
Make time for yourself in your calendar. Block of times and make it a meeting with yourself just like you would your boss.
This way there is no getting around it.
Practicing During Everyday Life
The next step is to practice while you’re going through the motions of everyday life.
Of course, you’ll want to reference your past and future at certain times.
It’s to be expected; however, make an effort to avoid letting your mind dwell outside the present.
Make your decisions using the past and future as necessary, and then move on with your life in the present.
After you’ve mastered some meditation techniques, try meditating during those times of the day when you’re doing something on autopilot.
Instead of allowing your mind to wander, stay present as you engage in activities like brushing your teeth or waiting for the coffee to be ready.
As you continue to practice, you’ll notice a vast amount of opportunities where you can stay in the present moment.
Seize these opportunities whenever you can and enjoy the many benefits!
Hey Alyssa! Thanks for your kind words. And thank you for stopping by.
Hi Toni-Ann! Nice blog. All points are very effective for all mothers. “Starting With Meditation” is such a beautiful idea. Thanks for the lovely content. Keep posting!